Most interviews use behavioral interview questions that use the what, how, and why format to encourage more discussion from you regarding your past employment, education, and accomplishments. I have chosen a few questions below that should help you prepare for your next interview.
In the accomplishments part of the interview the hiring manager might ask questions such as:
The answers to these questions should be written up in a paragraph that you can become extremely conversant with. The more specific you can be about these questions the clearer and accomplished you will be to your hiring manager. And that is a good thing!
When your hiring manager shifts the focus to how you are at managing people, they may ask such questions as:
These are just a few of the many behavioral questions that can be asked at an interview. A coach can help you can fine tune the answers to these questions without falling into any negatives. As your coach I will practice the interview with you so that by the time you are actually at the office you will have the confidence and knowledge of how you can best contribute to their organization. Call me at (910) 444-8963 for your 30 minute free service and we can work together on how you may accomplish your interview goals.
(I thought this article too important not to put in my posts for those who want more information to avoid the Covid- 19 risks. It was written by Erin Bromage. You can access the original text and accompanying diagrams at erinbromage.com or see the link under "Please read this link").
Please read this link to learn about the author and background to these posts.
It seems many people are breathing some relief, and I’m not sure why. An epidemic curve has a relatively predictable upslope and once the peak is reached, the back slope can also be predicted. We have robust data from the outbreaks in China and Italy, that shows the backside of the mortality curve declines slowly, with deaths persisting for months. Assuming we have just crested in deaths at 70k, it is possible that we lose another 70,000 people over the next 6 weeks as we come off that peak. That's what's going to happen with a lockdown.
As states reopen, and we give the virus more fuel, all bets are off. I understand the reasons for reopening the economy, but I've said before, if you don't solve the biology, the economy won't recover.
There are very few states that have demonstrated a sustained decline in numbers of new infections. Indeed, as of May 3rd the majority are still increasing and reopening. As a simple example of the USA trend, when you take out the data from New York and just look at the rest of the USA, daily case numbers are increasing. Bottom line: the only reason the total USA new case numbers look flat right now is because the New York City epidemic was so large and now it is being contained.
(as of May 3rd)
So throughout most of the country we are going to add fuel to the viral fire by reopening. It's going to happen if I like it or not, so my goal here is to try to guide you away from situations of high risk.
Where are people getting sick?
We know most people get infected in their own home. A household member contracts the virus in the community and brings it into the house where sustained contact between household members leads to infection.
But where are people contracting the infection in the community? I regularly hear people worrying about grocery stores, bike rides, inconsiderate runners who are not wearing masks.... are these places of concern? Well, not really. Let me explain.
In order to get infected you need to get exposed to an infectious dose of the virus; based on infectious dose studies with MERS and SARS, some estimate that as few as 1000 SARS-CoV2 viral particles are needed for an infection to take hold. Please note, this still needs to be determined experimentally, but we can use that number to demonstrate how infection can occur. Infection could occur, through 1000 viral particles you receive in one breath or from one eye-rub, or 100 viral particles inhaled with each breath over 10 breaths, or 10 viral particles with 100 breaths. Each of these situations can lead to an infection.
How much Virus is released into the environment?
A Bathroom: Bathrooms have a lot of high touch surfaces, door handles, faucets, stall doors. So fomite transfer risk in this environment can be high. We still do not know whether a person releases infectious material in feces or just fragmented virus, but we do know that toilet flushing does aerosolize many droplets. Treat public bathrooms with extra caution (surface and air), until we know more about the risk.
A Cough: A single cough releases about 3,000 droplets and droplets travels at 50 miles per hour. Most droplets are large, and fall quickly (gravity), but many do stay in the air and can travel across a room in a few seconds.
A Sneeze: A single sneeze releases about 30,000 droplets, with droplets traveling at up to 200 miles per hour. Most droplets are small and travel great distances (easily across a room).
If a person is infected, the droplets in a single cough or sneeze may contain as many as 200,000,000 (two hundred million) virus particles which can all be dispersed into the environment around them.
A breath: A single breath releases 50 - 5000 droplets. Most of these droplets are low velocity and fall to the ground quickly. There are even fewer droplets released through nose-breathing. Importantly, due to the lack of exhalation force with a breath, viral particles from the lower respiratory areas are not expelled.
Unlike sneezing and coughing which release huge amounts of viral material, the respiratory droplets released from breathing only contain low levels of virus. We don't have a number for SARS-CoV2 yet, but we can use influenza as a guide. We know that a person infected with influenza releases about 3 - 20 virus RNA copies per minute of breathing.
Remember the formula: Successful Infection = Exposure to Virus x Time
If a person coughs or sneezes, those 200,000,000 viral particles go everywhere. Some virus hangs in the air, some falls into surfaces, most falls to the ground. So if you are face-to-face with a person, having a conversation, and that person sneezes or coughs straight at you, it's pretty easy to see how it is possible to inhale 1,000 virus particles and become infected.
But even if that cough or sneeze was not directed at you, some infected droplets--the smallest of small--can hang in the air for a few minutes, filling every corner of a modest sized room with infectious viral particles. All you have to do is enter that room within a few minutes of the cough/sneeze and take a few breaths and you have potentially received enough virus to establish an infection.
But with general breathing, 20 copies per minute into the environment, even if every virus ended up in your lungs, you would need 1000 copies divided by 20 copies per minute = 50 minutes.
Speaking increases the release of respiratory droplets about 10 fold; ~200 copies of virus per minute. Again, assuming every virus is inhaled, it would take ~5 minutes of speaking face-to-face to receive the required dose.
The exposure to virus x time formula is the basis of contact tracing. Anyone you spend greater than 10 minutes with in a face-to-face situation is potentially infected. Anyone who shares a space with you (say an office) for an extended period is potentially infected. This is also why it is critical for people who are symptomatic to stay home. Your sneezes and your coughs expel so much virus that you can infect a whole room of people.
What is the role of asymptomatic people in spreading the virus?
Symptomatic people are not the only way the virus is shed. We know that at least 44% of all infections--and the majority of community-acquired transmissions--occur from people without any symptoms (asymptomatic or pre-symptomatic people). You can be shedding the virus into the environment for up to 5 days before symptoms begin.
Infectious people come in all ages, and they all shed different amounts of virus. The figure below shows that no matter your age (x-axis), you can have a little bit of virus or a lot of virus (y-axis). (ref)
The amount of virus released from an infected person changes over the course of infection and it is also different from person-to-person. Viral load generally builds up to the point where the person becomes symptomatic. So just prior to symptoms showing, you are releasing the most virus into the environment. Interestingly, the data shows that just 20% of infected people are responsible for 99% of viral load that could potentially be released into the environment (ref)
So now let’s get to the crux of it. Where are the personal dangers from reopening?
When you think of outbreak clusters, what are the big ones that come to mind? Most people would say cruise ships. But you would be wrong. Ship outbreaks don’t even land in the top 50 outbreaks to date.
Ignoring the terrible outbreaks in nursing homes, we find that the biggest outbreaks are in prisons, religious ceremonies, and workplaces, such as meat packing facilities and call centers. Any environment that is enclosed, with poor air circulation and high density of people, spells trouble.
Some of the biggest super-spreading events are:
As we move back to work, or go to a restaurant, let’s look at what can happen in those environments.
Restaurants: Some really great shoe-leather epidemiology demonstrated clearly the effect of a single asymptomatic carrier in a restaurant environment (see below). The infected person (A1) sat at a table and had dinner with 9 friends. Dinner took about 1 to 1.5 hours. During this meal, the asymptomatic carrier released low-levels of virus into the air from their breathing. Airflow (from the restaurant's various airflow vents) was from right to left. Approximately 50% of the people at the infected person's table became sick over the next 7 days. 75% of the people on the adjacent downwind table became infected. And even 2 of the 7 people on the upwind table were infected (believed to happen by turbulent airflow). No one at tables E or F became infected, they were out of the main airflow from the air conditioner on the right to the exhaust fan on the left of the room. (Ref)
Workplaces: Another great example is the outbreak in a call center (see below). A single infected employee came to work on the 11th floor of a building. That floor had 216 employees. Over the period of a week, 94 of those people became infected (43.5%: the blue chairs). 92 of those 94 people became sick (only 2 remained asymptomatic). Notice how one side of the office is primarily infected, while there are very few people infected on the other side. While exact number of people infected by respiratory droplets / respiratory exposure versus fomite transmission (door handles, shared water coolers, elevator buttons etc.) is unknown. It serves to highlight that being in an enclosed space, sharing the same air for a prolonged period increases your chances of exposure and infection. Another 3 people on other floors of the building were infected, but the authors were not able to trace the infection to the primary cluster on the 11th floor. Interestingly, even though there were considerable interaction between workers on different floors of the building in elevators and the lobby, the outbreak was mostly limited to a single floor (ref). This highlights the importance of exposure and time in the spreading of SARS-CoV2.
Choir: The church choir in Washington State. Even though people were aware of the virus and took steps to minimize transfer; e.g. they avoided the usual handshakes and hugs hello, people also brought their own music to avoid sharing, and socially distanced themselves during practice. A single asymptomatic carrier infected most of the people in attendance. The choir sang for 2 1/2 hours, inside an enclosed church which was roughly the size of a volleyball court.
Singing, to a greater degree than talking, aerosolizes respiratory droplets extraordinarily well. Deep-breathing while singing facilitated those respiratory droplets getting deep into the lungs. Two and half hours of exposure ensured that people were exposed to enough virus over a long enough period of time for infection to take place. Over a period of 4 days, 45 of the 60 choir members developed symptoms, 2 died. The youngest infected was 31, but they averaged 67 years old. (corrected link)
Indoor sports: While this may be uniquely Canadian, a super spreading event occurred during a curling event in Canada. A curling event with 72 attendees became another hotspot for transmission. Curling brings contestants and teammates in close contact in a cool indoor environment, with heavy breathing for an extended period. This tournament resulted in 24 of the 72 people becoming infected. (ref)
Birthday parties / funerals: Just to see how simple infection-chains can be, this is a real story from Chicago. The name is fake. Bob was infected but didn't know. Bob shared a takeout meal, served from common serving dishes, with 2 family members. The dinner lasted 3 hours. The next day, Bob attended a funeral, hugging family members and others in attendance to express condolences. Within 4 days, both family members who shared the meal are sick. A third family member, who hugged Bob at the funeral became sick. But Bob wasn't done. Bob attended a birthday party with 9 other people. They hugged and shared food at the 3 hour party. Seven of those people became ill. Over the next few days Bob became sick, he was hospitalized, ventilated, and died.
But Bob's legacy lived on. Three of the people Bob infected at the birthday went to church, where they sang, passed the tithing dish etc. Members of that church became sick. In all, Bob was directly responsible for infecting 16 people between the ages of 5 and 86. Three of those 16 died.
The spread of the virus within the household and back out into the community through funerals, birthdays, and church gatherings is believed to be responsible for the broader transmission of COVID-19 in Chicago. (ref)
Commonality of outbreaks
The reason to highlight these different outbreaks is to show you the commonality of outbreaks of COVID-19. All these infection events were indoors, with people closely-spaced, with lots of talking, singing, or yelling. The main sources for infection are home, workplace, public transport, social gatherings, and restaurants. This accounts for 90% of all transmission events. In contrast, outbreaks spread from shopping appear to be responsible for a small percentage of traced infections. (Ref)
Importantly, of the countries performing contact tracing properly, only a single outbreak has been reported from an outdoor environment (less than 0.3% of traced infections). (ref)
So back to the original thought of my post.
Indoor spaces, with limited air exchange or recycled air and lots of people, are concerning from a transmission standpoint. We know that 60 people in a volleyball court-sized room (choir) results in massive infections. Same situation with the restaurant and the call center. Social distancing guidelines don't hold in indoor spaces where you spend a lot of time, as people on the opposite side of the room were infected.
The principle is viral exposure over an extended period of time. In all these cases, people were exposed to the virus in the air for a prolonged period (hours). Even if they were 50 feet away (choir or call center), even a low dose of the virus in the air reaching them, over a sustained period, was enough to cause infection and in some cases, death.
Social distancing rules are really to protect you with brief exposures or outdoor exposures. In these situations there is not enough time to achieve the infectious viral load when you are standing 6 feet apart or where wind and the infinite outdoor space for viral dilution reduces viral load. The effects of sunlight, heat, and humidity on viral survival, all serve to minimize the risk to everyone when outside.
When assessing the risk of infection (via respiration) at the grocery store or mall, you need to consider the volume of the air space (very large), the number of people (restricted), how long people are spending in the store (workers - all day; customers - an hour). Taken together, for a person shopping: the low density, high air volume of the store, along with the restricted time you spend in the store, means that the opportunity to receive an infectious dose is low. But, for the store worker, the extended time they spend in the store provides a greater opportunity to receive the infectious dose and therefore the job becomes more risky.
Basically, as the work closures are loosened, and we start to venture out more, possibly even resuming in-office activities, you need to look at your environment and make judgments. How many people are here, how much airflow is there around me, and how long will I be in this environment. If you are in an open floorplan office, you really need to critically assess the risk (volume, people, and airflow). If you are in a job that requires face-to-face talking or even worse, yelling, you need to assess the risk.
If you are sitting in a well ventilated space, with few people, the risk is low.
If I am outside, and I walk past someone, remember it is “dose and time” needed for infection. You would have to be in their airstream for 5+ minutes for a chance of infection. While joggers may be releasing more virus due to deep breathing, remember the exposure time is also less due to their speed.
While I have focused on respiratory exposure here, please don't forget surfaces. Those infected respiratory droplets land somewhere. Wash your hands often and stop touching your face!
As we are allowed to move around our communities more freely and be in contact with more people in more places more regularly, the risks to ourselves and our family are significant. Even if you are gung-ho for reopening and resuming business as usual, do your part and wear a mask to reduce what you release into the environment. It will help everyone, including your own business. This article was inspired by a piece written by Jonathan Kay in Quillete
COVID-19 Superspreader Events in 28 Countries: Critical Patterns and Lessons
About the author
Erin S. Bromage, Ph.D., is an Associate Professor of Biology at the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth. Dr. Bromage graduated from the School of Veterinary and Biomedical Sciences James Cook University, Australia where his research focused on the epidemiology of, and immunity to, infectious disease in animals. His Post-Doctoral training was at the College of William and Mary, Virginia Institute of Marine Science in the Comparative Immunology Laboratory of late Dr. Stephen Kaattari.
Dr. Bromage’s research focuses on the evolution of the immune system, the immunological mechanisms responsible for protection from infectious disease, and the design and use of vaccines to control infectious disease in animals. He also focuses on designing diagnostic tools to detect biological and chemical threats in the environment in real-time.
Dr. Bromage joined the Faculty of the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth in 2007 where he teaches courses in Immunology and Infectious disease, including a course this semester on the Ecology of Infectious Disease which focused on the emerging SARS-CoV2 outbreak in China.
Note: When I wrote this article there was no pandemic, obviously attending events at this time is not recommended, but we will get through this, and the advice in this column will definitely be helpful then.
This may fly in the face of the customary “fill your resume filled with key words” so that it will somehow make it through human resources and not be tossed aside. I still feel it is important to make a killer resume but, in my experience, that isn’t the fast track to get the position you need, as soon as possible.
You know the old saying “it is not what you know but who you know.” I don’t agree with the first part. You must know your field and the requirements of the specific career that you are applying for, but I heartedly agree with the “who you know”. This is not where I tell you to brainstorm your contacts, friends, and family as to who they know that might help you. Not everyone has connected people in the career of your choice so you need to make your own contacts and there is no better way than to utilize your nearby colleges and community special events to do so.
When I was the Academic Advisor at the Johns Hopkins University Information Security Institute I took it upon myself to find a way to help my graduating students to get a great job. I instituted a lecture series where I invited the Chief Information Security Officers from the major large companies such as Google, Ernst and Young, Cigital, NSA, FBI, and others. Getting speakers to come to Johns Hopkins wasn’t a tough sell so it was no surprise that they came. The surprise was that after their talk I would put them on the spot by asking them if the students could give their resume to them instead of having the students sending their resumes to Human Resources. That way if the speaker found an outstanding resume, they could hand it off themselves to Human Resources. When that happens the Human Resource office is almost required to bring the person in for the first interview.
I am not suggesting that you go back to school to follow this strategy you can do the next best thing. Google a nearby college as close to you as possible. Then call the department that is close to the career field you want to work in. For example, if you are interested in accounting then the business and finance department (of not only the main college but also the continuing education area of the university is the number you want to get. Call a professor in the department to see if they have any kind of public speaker series. You can also ask the same professor if they have any closed speaker series. You might be able to gain entrance to those presentations if you convince the professor that your interest lies in this area and you would like to pursue (for this you may not want to talk about your job search). Do not get in touch with the administrator running event as they may not want someone outside of the college or university attending. This isn't always true, but I believe getting in touch with the professor works much better.
Once you have gained access to the event, you must wait until the lecture is over and the lecturer has ended his question and answer period. That is when you have a window of opportunity to engage the lecturer in an aspect of the talk that aligns with your idea of a dream job. That is also when you ask the lecturer if he or she would be amenable to looking over your resume. Have the resume on hand and pass it on to him or her. If the lecturer says that you should send it to personnel, you tell him or her that you are more interested in the lecturer's opinion of what your resume lacks or where it could be improved. Remember, the speaker is there because he/she likes to teach. Capitalize on that fact to get your resume looked at. One thing to remember, I would never ask you to feign your interest in a presentation. The speaker will know if you are sincere and if you are "just making it up" to get a job. Remember, this is a possible entry into your career. Dress the part.
Now that you have the basics of how to gain admission to a college event and approaching the speaker, you can expand this knowledge to looking for events in the community. Stay in touch with the events that are happening in your community that revolve around some aspect of your career interests. The major take away from this article is to think "out of the box" when you are looking for a position. Utilize the colleges, universities and community events in your area. Don't waste your time focusing solely on cold sending resumes to Human Resources. Remember, it can be "who you know" that gets you the job of your dreams.
Feel free to download these action oriented verbs to add to your resume. These are great words to use in order to highlight your achievements and telegraph to your future employers that you are the right person for the position.
(As a coach and therapist I find it important to take one's experience and reflect on it in order to grow into a new healthier version of one's self. My acting teacher once told me " "You are only as sick as your secrets" It is in that spirit I have decided to share a painful part of my past to help others as well as myself.)
An abusive man does not just meet you and say “Hi I am Joe and I will be unbelievably nice to you in the beginning of our dating relationship. I will treat you like a Princess, hanging on your every word, and complimenting your physical appearance and intelligence. Then eventually (it will be after weeks months or years) you will do something that doesn’t please me, and I will start calling you stupid, or lazy, or fat. I will begin to attack your self -esteem because the worse your self-esteem, the less likely you are to leave me. Deep down I don’t believe I am lovable, so I need to keep you under control. Besides I watched my parents and that is how my father treated my mother and they have been together for 25 years so that is all I know about love”.
When he insults you, you will be confused thinking that “he must be right because we did get a long very good in the beginning. He always says he is sorry after an episode and most of the time he treats me like when we first met. Now it seems like he has two personalities. How can he be so nice one minute and so mean the next?”
I lived with a man in New York for nine years who eventually started to physically abuse me. I was one of the lucky ones, (if you can believe that). My boyfriend only hit me a total of 3 times spaced out over several years. Maybe he realized he had to take it slow with me before he got into the heavy physical abuse. I was very independent in New York, so it wasn’t that easy to wear me down. I shudder to think how things would have gone, if I was living in a rural area with few neighbors, not that neighbors are that helpful in a situation like that.
While I was a Social Worker at a Mental Health Hospital, I had a client who was very depressed. She lived in a rural area and would go to the emergency room of the hospital saying she wanted to kill herself just so she could be checked into the hospital to get away from her husband. She told me how he would take his shotgun, and tell her to run, and he would shoot around her as she ran out on their field. You don’t usually hear of abuse like that, but I assure you that it is going on all over the United States where women are so ashamed and so beaten down emotionally by their husbands or boyfriends they can’t tell anyone, for fear it might get back to him, and the abuse would escalate. She only felt safe to tell a mental health worker who would offer to get her housing in one of the women’s shelters. But she wouldn’t take the housing because she was financially dependent on him. She was afraid of what he would do if she left him. However, most women in that situation are too afraid to go out in the world and work. It would take intensive help from a therapist, a safe place to live, and most of these women do not have the finances or freedom to risk doing that.
The man I lived with in New York was from Czechoslovakia. His father, mother and brother were vacationing on the Turkish Coast when the Prague Spring forced him to make a decision: to go back to Czechoslovakia and be forced to be a member of the communist party, or just keep going west and not look back. So, he took his wife, and two boys (who knew no English), away from the support of her mother, and father and made his way to the United States. He had made some overtures to people he knew in the US before this before the occupation and was able to secure employment as an engineer. His wife didn’t have the skills she needed to gain employment, and she became totally dependent on him. That is when it started for her. As in most abusive relationships, it started out with verbal abuse, attacking her confidence in being able to take care of her two boys or herself. I was witness to that. What I wasn’t witness to, but she told me later, is that he had hit her numerous times through the years and pushed her down the steps. After being in the States several years she was finally able to secure a position as a bank teller. On more than one occasion, she had to wear sunglasses to work. Yet, she felt helpless to leave the relationship, having no family here and now three boys to raise.
Looking back on the first time I met my boyfriend’s father, I reached out to shake his hand and was shocked when he squeezed my hand so hard, I thought he was going to break it. My boyfriend didn’t have the control over me that his father had over his mother. I had a good job and my family was financially and emotionally supportive, but my self-esteem had taken a beating throughout my childhood and later during my college years.
The first time my Czech boyfriend physically abused me was when I was staying at my parents and we were in the guest bedroom with twin beds. My boyfriend without any provocation, decided to come from over his side of the bed to slap me hard in the face. I was totally shocked and all I could think of was “did my sister (who was in the next room) hear the slap?” I was afraid to ask him why he slapped me for fear that he would do it again. When I went into the bathroom, my sister came out and asked me, “Did he hit you?” That was the first time I felt the shame that comes with being abused. The shame is feeling it must have been my fault and how could I allow him to do this and get away with it?
The first time you are abused should be the last time.
In the next several years I spent a lot of time wondering how this normally nice and loving man could have such a split personality. Since I wasn’t brought up in a home where my father physically abused my mother, I couldn’t understand this type of behavior. One of the things I learned was that there is a custom on Easter Sunday in parts of Poland and Czechoslovakia where young boys had permission to douse young girls with water and hit them with switches around their lower leg and the young girls would give them candy in return. How’s that for training young boys to abuse their girlfriends and wives later in life! Don’t take it for granted that your significant other has the same morals and customs that you ascribe to. Learn all you can before you enter into a relationship especially if that person is from a country other than your own.
There is a passage in the Bible (2 Corinthians 6:14) that says: Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” In Paul’s day the oxen had to be of the same height and the yoke would be custom carved to make sure that the oxen would not pull against each other. Of course, we are not animals and there have been very many successful and loving marriages with people of different races, countries and backgrounds. I am just saying that make sure you and your mate start on the same page when it comes to how you both believe people, and women in particular should be treated.
So are here are my 5 things to look for if you don’t want to become another abused woman or man.
1. How did his/her parents treat each other even if you have to talk to other relatives find this out!
2. Has he ever called you a name, told you that you were stupid, fat, that people don’t like you, or any other denigrating comment. Even if he says he is sorry, that shouldn’t matter, the red flag is down. If you keep playing the game and you start justifying his words, then the beginning of his onslaught on your self- esteem will have begun. LEAVE NOW! The sooner you get out of the relationship the safer you are. Do not justify his behavior or listen to his weak apologies. You can listen to them from a distance when you have the support of someone who knows the cycle and can keep you from falling into the trap.
3. If, after the first insult you still answer his calls, then it is time to take a hard look at yourself in relation to him. Do you think he is prettier than you or smarter than you? Why don’t you believe that you are worth the kind of partner that appreciates you, compliments you, and treats you with respect? Did it come from your childhood? What male role model did you have? Was your father abusive to your mother? To you? If you don’t sort that out before you start dating you are bound to keep repeating the same wrong choices.
4. If you live with him because he was so nice in the beginning, try to find supportive friends, a therapist, social worker or anyone to help you leave the situation. I was too weak to leave on my own. I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to support myself in NY. So, I took the cowards way out. I met another guy who was a cut above my boyfriend and cheated on my boyfriend. The new man told me how beautiful I was, how good I was, and made me see that I shouldn’t be in the relationship I was in. I don’t recommend this way of leaving, but when someone offers you a lifeline — do whatever you can to leave the situation. One caveat to this is once you get out of the situation, do not form a strong relationship with the man or woman who helped you get out. You are not ready for that yet. See number 3.
5. Therapy, Therapy, Therapy. You will need the support of a non-judgmental person to help undo the damage that your abuser inflicted on you. Don’t try to do this alone, or you stand the chance of getting in the same type of relationship again. When you say you don’t trust your choices in men, you are on your way to recovery and the possibility of a real loving relationship.
Deb has worked in mental health as a social worker helping her clients transform their lives.
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